Thanks everyone for the suggestions. We have been been trying quite a few of Cesare Milan's tips for working with stressful dogs - that help a little but not a lot - obviously I am not a dog whisperer or have his magic touch :(
Thank you Sara for mentioning that book...I did get it awhile ago and it is excellent. I have read through it twice and have been using that as my guidelines. I also found another great book on understanding dog psychology and that also helped a lot.
We are just back from the vets and after MUCH discussion we are going to give Denny "Clomicalm" - just a half dose of the medication (based on his size) to see if it helps...he has a sensitive tummy so we thought we would try a half dose and work up to a full dose if he can tolerate it. We are not expecting miracles but if they help him be just a little less scared of everything we will be happy. Thankfully - as you can see in the photo - he liked the taste of the tablet. We will give an update in a couple of weeks.
[Note from Reilly]
We are sorry we haven't got around to everyone's bloggies the last few days - can you believe Mom & Dad went off to a place called "Little Rock" and left us home to guard the house! "IT'S" Mom was here so NO we weren't alone but it was still a big job for us. You can see some of Mom and Dad's adventure on Mom's bloggie http://farawaygaze.blogspot.com/ although why you want to I don't know - considering we are not in ANY of the photos!!!!!